All individual relevant realities are real. All seeming opposites have truths that can be integrated so as to create a third integrated and unifying state of consciousness, systemic reality or physical condition.  One simply has to find the correct and deepest factors to integrate and the result is a knowingness. Doing this continually in Life and Living is Wisdom and its pinnacle experience Grace. Developing this mindset is probably the most valuable personal process and trait one can focus on because it enables a flow through life that both experiences deeply and yet does not hang up on anything. This keeps one in present time where each and every experience is new, vibrant and capable of being a genuine learning experience. Every thought, perception and experience can be this way with practice and the intention to make it so.