The unwillingness to consider/conceive integrative thirdness greater oneness which is probably the foremost aspect of grace is the biggest barrier to the resolution to any and all problems. Contemplate grace and its Trinity/Unity/Oneness aspect and you can walk through life in a generally unhindered, evolutionary, resolving and ethically ascendant manner possible.

Obsessive and orthodox adherence to duality on the other hand is the most ruinessly static and conflict creating mindset one can self actualize.

Having said this, integrative, trinitarian/unitarian thinking and acting which involves the rational consideration of morals, also known as ethics, enables one to observe and utilize dualism with the least possible likelihood of the frustrations of same. Grace which is acting with love after all is the ultimate unity of a duality (self and the other) into a thirdness greater oneness.

This I refer to as The Cosmic Code of Wisdom and Grace, and the gracious willingness to resolve paradox/anomalous duality/argument is where it begins.

The truth of grace as in thirdness greater oneness exists in plain sight all around us. Learn to think in a trinitarian/unitarian fashion and your life will be full of freedom, flow and happiness in whatever you do.